We've been dating for almost a year but have known each other for six years. I've been so happy with him but he has 'retarded ejaculation' and cannot come during sex or foreplay, only when he masturbates. We have not had sex for months. Last time he couldn't keep an erection and now he says he's too afraid. He has never been in a relationship longer than six months, I'm guessing due to this issue. Otherwise he is caring and affectionate, but there is no passion.
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There's still a great deal of misunderstanding about the subject of simultaneous orgasm — which is when a couple achieve a climax at the same time. I've found that a lot of people think that both men and women are supposed to reach orgasm at the same moment every single time they have sex but, alas, in reality this just isn't true. The notion that simultaneous orgasm is the norm is simply a myth that's been created over the years by hundreds of romantic novels and erotic stories. The result of all this misunderstanding is that women get the impression that something is 'wrong' with them, which isn't the case at all.
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